Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another. You can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge - or embrace forgiveness and move forward. If you don't practice forgiveness you may be the one who pays most dearly. If you allow negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you may find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice.

So what is forgiveness and how do you forgive?

Forgiveness is a conscious choice to let go of all thoughts of resentment and revenge. Forgiveness can even lead to understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who offended you. At these times, you must reflect on times others may have had to forgive you for something. You may need to discuss your problem with a therapist, a family member or friend, a spiritual leader, or simply write in a journal and try to meditate and pray about it. Prayer empowers you. You can choose to forgive, release, move freely, remain free of resentment and move forward.

As you let go of grudges, you no longer define your life by how you have been hurt. You move away from your role as victim, and release the control and power the offending person and situation has had in your life. As you forgive, recognize God's goodness expressing in and around you. With compassion, forgive yourself for doing some things you regret or for neglecting to do some things you wish you had done. Through self-forgiveness, your capacity to forgive others increases and Judgment is released.

Do not expect reconciliation always, and you must not expect the other person to change. You can only change your own behavior and your own reactions. Sometimes reconciliation may not be possible or even advisable. Just release the other person. You will then be free - to give and receive the gifts of love and happiness and to be the best person you can be. Embracing forgiveness means embracing peace, hope, gratitude and joy.

Free yourself today.

Author: Marilyn Smyth